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i cheated my best friend help losing my 2 life time friends help please
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D
2004-07-03 11:22:23 UTC
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Hi im danny
Ive been with my wife for 13 years and have been in an open marriage
for 6 years. My wife has a perminant boyfriend who knows the situation
and they have been together for 1 year.

I am very happy for her and we are both very happy with our lifes
until now.

Until what happened below my wife has been my only friend and sexual
partner since we were at school. i am a quiet fellow with no real
social circle.

A year ago my closest and only friend and his wife found out about my
open marriage.

Apart from my wife these two people are the only people in my life i
am very distant from all of my family and only see them maybe once a
year if that.

I regard these two people my family now dont know what to do.

My friend asked me to sleep with his wife as they wanted to experiment
with wife swapping/swinging.

So I slept with her and everything seemed ok. My friend said he was
fine with it, but didnt want it to happen again for some time until he
had done the same.

My friend had cheated on his wife for many years (8) , had recently
confessed all to her. She got over it, and then they both decided they
wanted to try having out of marriage sex. So she went first.

I slept with her last july. A few months past and then she kept making
passes at me each time we were alone I refused until january of this
year. I had lasted 6 months.


I then slept with her 6 times about once month, each time saying it
would be the last. We finaly got caught last month as she called me
whilst my friend was in the car and he heard her on the hands free car
phone.

My friend has now told me to stay out of there lives and it has been 2
months since it happened.

I am currently writing an apology / this is the last time i will
contact you letter. But I am distraught as I have lost my 2 best life
time friends.

Can anyone please give me some advice???

I have to hide the pain from my own wife who didnt know,and is also
very emotional about losing her best friend.

My friend doesnt want us to have anything to do with them now.


I have been deeply upset and am having quiet a hard time dealing with
this. and feel very lost

Thank you for any replies and any time that I take up

Regards

Danny
Trin
2004-07-04 19:50:00 UTC
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Post by D
Can anyone please give me some advice???
Learn from what happened. (It's as good as I get at giving out advice.)
Post by D
I have to hide the pain from my own wife who didnt know,and is also
very emotional about losing her best friend.
Hang about, if you're poly... why didn't she know?
Post by D
I have been deeply upset and am having quiet a hard time dealing with
this. and feel very lost
Understandable. G'luck getting through it.
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trin
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